Intermarriage

ASSIMILATION, INTERMARRIAGE AND CONVERSION TO
JUDAISM

“Marrying a Gentile is totally forbidden [in traditional Jewish law].”

— Michael Asheri, 1983, p. 332

“Two of the most overworked folk tales that are firmly believed
by Jews are that the overwhelmingy majority of Jewish
intermarriages involved non-Jewish females and Jewish males;
and that most of these non-Jewish females marry Jewish males
in order to better their lot socially and economically.”
— Rabbi David Max Eichhorn, 1974, p. 29

While Adolf Hitler failed to destroy the Jews, many these days fear
that they are in danger of accomplishing their own destruction via a younger
generation’s choice of extinction. Jews have always resisted surrendering their
identity chauvinism to go the way of French-Americans, Italian-Americans,
Greek-Americans and so many others have already done in completely assimilating
into American society decades earlier. The American Jewish community — more
intensely than any other people — has always resisted that dreaded curse:
assimilation. “The hydra-headed monster of assimilation takes many forms,” says
Richard Gordis, “the ‘most menacing’ of which is intermarriage.” [SILBERMAN, p.
285] “What centuries of persecution have been powerless to do,” wrote Lewis S.
Benjamin in 1907, “has been efficient in a score of years by friendly
intercourse.” [SILBERMAN, p. 286] “We have survived,” says Alan Dershowitz, “–
sometimes by the skin of our teeth — millennia of rape attempts against the Jewish
body and soul by villains and monsters of every description. Efforts to convert
us, assimilate us, and exterminate us by the sword have taken an enormous
toll, but in the end they have failed. Now the dangers are more subtle: willing
seduction, voluntary assimilation, deliberate abdication.” [DERSHOWITZ, p. 354]
“On the one end of spectrum,” remarks Henry Feingold, “is the danger of
absorption into a benevolent society; on the other is the possibility of physical
destruction … It seems like both dangers require a conscious will to
overcome. That may be the secret of Jewish survival.” [FEINGOLD, p. 67]

Intermarriage (marrying non-Jews), notes Egon Mayer, has always been
“the cardinal social offense that an individual Jew can commit against his
family and community.” [SCHNEIDER, p. 334] “There are two main taboos laid upon the
Jewish people,” wrote Ann Roiphe in 1981, “The first and most important taboo
is not to leave the tribe … The taboo against intermarriage is really only
an extension in practical matters of the first taboo. If you marry a stranger
it will lead to your eventually leaving the tribe, and if you yourself do not,
then your children and grandchildren will and so the body of Jewry will be
depleted. Each loss is grieved and each time someone breaks the taboo the ranks
close tighter behind him. They don’t say (not relatives, friends or friends of
relatives) good luck, Godspeed, they vilify and despise.” [ROIPHE, 1981, p.
197]

Kitty Dukakis, the wife of Massachusetts governor Michael Dukakis,
remembered being taken to the synagogue as a child by her grandmother:

“I remember, too, being the subject of discussion among the
mezzanine denizens. The ladies looked me over and mumbled, under
their breath, ‘shiksa.’ I was about four and a half when I heard that
term for the first time: It is Yiddish and means a non-Jewish girl.
At the very word, my grandmother would turn excitedly and shush
her friends. She’d purse her lips, look over to the side, and pretend
to spit, saying something like ‘p-tui, p-tui!’ I learned, later, she was
spitting to ward off the ‘keenahori,’ the evil eye. ‘It’s not true,’ my
grandmother cried vehemently. ‘She’s not a shiksa. She’s Jewish on
both sides!’ My grandmother never knew my mother was only
half-Jewish and that my sister and I had gentile blood. I think it
would have killed her.” [DUKAKIS, K., 1990, p. 55]

Vickie Bane notes the case of famous radio talk show host “Dr. Laura”
Schlessinger (whose father was Jewish, but mother Italian Catholic):

“Laura told Ethnic Newswatch that their Jewish neighbors on Long Island
were very ‘unaccepting’ of her mother because ‘she was a shiksa [a
non-Jewish
woman] and because she was gorgeous … A lot of problems came from the
Jewish women. I got into fistfights because they called my mother a dirty
refugee.” [BANE, V., 1999, p. 25]

Upon public announcement of the impending marriage between non-Jewish actress
Debbie Reynolds and Jewish pop singer Eddie Fisher, Reynolds notes in the
autobiography that:

“I also received a couple of hundred fan letters. Among them was a small,
ordinary-looiking, white envelope with my name and address scrawled across the
bottom. Inside, in the same blotchy-looking chicken-scratch was a note: ‘Dear
Deb. Thought you should know Eddies Father does NOT approve of him marrying a
Gentile. Doesn’t want him to be HURT. What YOU — if you did? Does your Mother
and Father want a half-Jew grandchild?’ No signature, naturally. It was
postmarked Hollywood, August 18. It was the first of many.” [REYNOLDS, D., 1988, p.
104]

In Peru, Israeli Elaine Karp is married to a popular 2001 presidential
candidate, Alejandro Toledo. But her relations with the local Jewish community
was strained, noted the Jewish Chronicle, “partly because of her high profile
marriage to a non-Jew … Her mixed marriage and her leftist views have caused
some rejection.” [PERELMAN, M., 4-20-01]

In 1982, Earl Shorris noted the perspective of his Uncle Phillip about
his son dating non-Jews:

“When [my Uncle Phillip’s] son, then a medical student, brought home a
Gentile
girl to meet his parents, Phillip is said to have addressed the boy as
Tom, a
subtle pun on a Hebrew word for wrong thinking. The young woman,
confused
at hearing her beau called by an unfamiliar name, asked my uncle, Do
you always
call him Tom? Only when he’s with you.” [SHORRIS, E., 1982, p. 53]

Jews, writes Inge Lederer Gibel, “are desperately concerned with the
ever-rising rate of intermarriage … Even Jewish secularists … often resist or
withhold their approval when a child announces the intention to ‘marry out.'”
[GIBEL, p. 53-54] This situation inevitably leads to the standard Jewish
‘universalist/particularist’ contradiction and the hypocrisy of preaching one
world view while practicing another. Gibel notes that

“The bulk of Jewry [worries about] the high rate of intermarriage, and
the dichotomy of teaching ones’ children about universal values and
the
kinship of the human family while in the next breath saying,  ‘But
you
mustn’t marry [a non-Jew].” [GIBEL, p. 54]

Even Gibel, who decries Jewish racism and married a Black man, told her
son, as she “told his sister: I don’t care who you marry, what color, what
nationality, as long as she is a good human being and willing to make a
commitment to a Jewish home.” [GIBEL, p. 65]

A 1990 survey of the American Jewish community set off a blaze of Jewish
worry and hysteria. 52% of all marriages by Jews in America today, the study
revealed, were to non-Jews. (Some scholars have argued a more realistic figure
is 40%, which is still — for most Jews — intolerably high). “This (52%)
number,” says J. J. Goldberg, “electrified Jewry from coast to coast. Within
weeks it would spread by word of mouth and through newspaper headlines,
impassioned sermons, and anguished editorials.” [GOLDSTEIN, p. 66]

Many talk about Jews marrying non-Jews as if it was the reincarnation of
the Nazi gas chambers. “The intermarriage process will take everything Jewish
in its wake,” declared Rabbi Pincher Stolper, the Executive Vice President of
the Orthodox Union, “it will grow until it engulfs the entire community. It
is another Holocaust.” [GOLDBERG, p. 66]  “Intermarriage,” says Rabbi Sol Roth,
“is a holocaust of our own making.” [SILBERMAN, p. 286] “We will destroy
ourselves,” worried Rabbi Morris Shapiro, “not through the gas chambers but the
love chambers.” [RITTENBERG, p. 8] “There are no barking dogs and no Zyklon-B
gas,” declared Rabbi Ephraim Buchwald, founder of the National Jewish Outreach
Program, “… but make no mistake: this is a spiritual Holocaust.” [TOBIN, G.,
1999, p. 1] In England, where Jews fight their own intermarriage battle, the
United Synagogue Chief Rabbi Jonathan Sacks “reportedly said that intermarriage
could complete the work of annihilation attempted by Hitler.” [BAADEN, p. 7]
Paul Cowan recalls what his non-Jewish wife faced when they visited Israel:
“Israelis and Jewish-American tourists accused her completing Hitler’s work by
marrying a Jew.” [COWAN, P., 1987, p. 7] (“When I see those direct-mail
envelopes screaming ‘Another Holocaust … here in America,'” says Zev Schwebel,
“and then find inside an appeal for money to fight the ‘holocaust’ of
intermarriage, it makes my blood boil. This is an obscenity … How dare they equate the
horror of a Nazi with a couple that intermarry? This sort of talk is morally
reprehensible.” [HALBERSTAM, p. 130] )

Roberta Farber called the large number of young Jews desiring to marry
out of the Jewish community “devastating,” suggested proposals be enacted to
“thwart” it, and wondered how best to “retard” intermarriage.” [FARBER, p. 14,
20] Stephen Whitfield notes that the rise in Jewish intermarriage “has been so
dramatic that panic buttons have been pressed.” [WHITFIELD, American, p. 19]
Emma Klein suggests “communal” outreach programs to pull wayfaring Jews by
birth back into the fold to “weather the threat of intermarriage.” [KLEIN, p. 3]
Norman Cantor bemoans “the racial suicide of a runaway rate of intermarriage.”
[CANTOR, p. 434] Michael Wechsler says that it has reached “alarming
proportions.” [WECHSLER, p. 275]

“The current intermarriage scare,” wrote J. J. Goldberg in 1996,”is
having a subtle effect on the balance of power in Jewish life. It is putting
liberals on the defensive, by raising doubts about the very idea of Jewish
integration in an open society. Jewish institutions are devoting a growing share of
their resources to shore up the Jewish community from within, and are backing
away from their traditional role of trying to better American society …
Simply to say aloud that Jews should fight for the rights of all people — once a
universal view — now invites public attack.” [GOLDBERG, p. 64]  “The Jewish
community is hysterical about Jews marrying non-Jews,” noted Gary Tobin in 1999,
“The language of tragedy and despair pervades analysis and discussion of what
is called the ‘intermarriage crisis’ in America today. Denominations within
Judaism have passed bellicose resolutions calling for prevention of
intermarriage; and respected scholars, rabbinic leaders, and popular culture figures in
Jewish life consistently liken intermarriage to disease, war, and genocide.”
[TOBIN, G., 1999, p. 1]

“Part of me,” says scholar Steven M. Cohen, the chief harbinger of the
52% intermarriage figure, “[sees] my friends who are intermarried and
celebrating Christmas as renegades, as heretics, as a traitor of sorts, as missing a
very important part of Judaism — and I pity them.” [COHEN, Discussion, p. 19]
“Intermarriage is a violation of Jewish law,” argued Blu Greenberg in a (1997
issue of the left-wing) Tikkun magazine roundtable discussion about the
subject, “It’s an abrogation of the covenantal concept of how one enters the Jewish
community and peoplehood.” [FIRESTONE, TIKKUN, p. 37]

What other ethnic group in America could continuously, very publicly
herald itself in such a way, with no fears of vehement criticism of its
motivational core: naked racism? Any “white” group with a similar agenda is
categorically deemed as ideological descendents of Nazi fascism. African-American groups
with out-group marriage prohibitions are seen as Black versions of the Ku Klux
Klan. But Jewry consistently resists confronting its own intrinsic racism in
this matter. The Jewish Chosen People concept, by religious Jews or atheist
Jews, is blurred, vaguely alluded to, as in this observation by Jewish author
Gary Tobin:

“Many Jews may not know much about Judaism, but we do know
that we are somehow different because we are Jews — whatever that
means. And we know that other Jews are somehow connected to
us.” [TOBIN, G., 1999, p. 3]

In the face of all the myths about the Jewish community’s interethnic
tolerance for other communities, Maurice Lamm’s 1980 volume, The Jewish Way in
Love and Marriage (Harper and Row, publishers) is based on Jewish religious law
and advises the following:

“Permit no interdating — not once, not even in a group … Make your
child positively and absolutely aware of your horror at the prospect …
Do not attend wedding receptions or receptions of intermarried
friends … You must not accept a mixed marriage at all … Pull out
every stop … Of course it is heartbreaking to be severe with your
own child, but not melt … Interfaith-marriage is treason against
the Jewish people, its Bible, its history, and its laws.” [LAMM, p.
63-64]

In a section entitled “The Rights of the Intermarried,” Lamm notes that
a non-Jewish marriage partner may not be buried in a Jewish cemetery, nor may
an unconverted child of a non-Jewish woman. [LAMM, p. 54]  In the case of
homosexuality, “the Halakhah decrees that the lesbian is not punished with death
as the male homosexual would be, and is permitted to marry a priest. However,
the transgression does warrant a disciplinary punishment — flagellation.”
[LAMM, p. 67]

(Despite these traditional perspectives about same sex love, Jewish
homosexual Lev Raphael’s views about marriage, in his youth, to non-Jews were
kosher. “Beverly and I did not get married,” he writes, “I knew more and more
clearly that I could not marry a non-Jew, no matter how much I loved her. What
pushed me over the edge? Imagining Christmas, so profoundly a part of Beverly’s
life, in ‘our’ house. I couldn’t do it, nor could I ask her to give it up. I
couldn’t confuse myself or any children we might have. I wanted a Jewish home.
No — it wasn’t that affirmative. I realized I couldn’t have a non-Jewish home;
that was as far as I got, and it meant much more to me than my subterranean
attraction to men … I wished my brother hadn’t taken something away from the
family by marrying a non-Jew.” [RAPHAEL, L., 1996, p. 1213]

Paul Cowan recalls a non-Jewish girlfriend he once had (he did marry a
woman who converted to Judaism):

“A few weeks after I got back from Israel, I invited my girlfriend,
Beth, a
Smith undergraduate, an Episcopalian-born poet from suburban
Connecticut, whose literary ideas had influenced me, to spend time
at my family’s house on Martha’s Vineyard. Ever since I had returned
to America, I’d been toying with the idea of retaining the name Saul
Cohen, since I thought that act would allow me to feel the same
clear sense of my own identity as I had in Israel. It was a whimsical
notion, of course, since it would plainly wound my father [who changed
his name from Cohen] far more deeply than it would satisfy me. In
fact, Beth was the only person to whom I ever mentioned the fantasy.
Was I testing her? Probing for her innermost feeling about Jews?
Probably. They came, in a rush, when she rubbed her hands in a
Shylock-like gesture and said, ‘Saul Cohen. That’s not you. You
don’t want to go back to the ghetto.’ It seemed like a flash of bigotry,
and it bothered me so much that I never dated her again. When we
discussed the episode, years later, she remembered it as vividly as
I did. She had been sure that Iw as abandoning my identity as an
American for a romantic illusion. The illusion might not have been
so threatening if it had included her. But that night at supper my
sister Holly had glanced toward Beth, then turned toward me and
said, ‘I feel proud to be a Jew. Don’t you?’ I nodded, Beth recalls.
Then, later, when I tolkd Beth I was thinking of changing my name,
she began to feel so excluded from my family’s — and my — inner
core that she went outside and wept. For years I remembered her
as a latent anti-Semite. She remembered me as one of the chosen
people, who secretly believed that everyonse else was inferior.”
[COWAN, P., 1982, p. 113]

“I’m horrified by the attitude of so many Jews toward intermarriage,”
complained John-Paul Flintoff from Great Britain in 1998, “It’s not just in
Israel. You come across the same thing in Israel. Yes, my wife is Jewish.”
[FLINTOFF, J., 1–14-98]

“Among the most vehemently opposed to the prospect of intermarriage,”
says Lena Romanoff, who surveyed over 500 members of a ‘Jewish Converts Network,’
“some [Jewish] parents are initially inclined to go to any lengths to end the
relationship. Through outbursts, threats, and pleadings, the first stage in
the sabotage plan is directed at the son or daughter. When that fails, and it
usually does, discouragement is aimed at the non-Jewish partner through
displays of indifference, coldness, or downright hostility.” [ROMANOFF, p.81]

Social worker Edwin Freedland noted in 1982 that:

“When some Jewish parents realize that they might have a non-Jewish in-
law the reactions can be severe. I have seen Jewish mothers threaten
suicide and Jewish fathers go into severe states of depression. I have
of
threats to cut children off emotionally and financially and to get the
child
kicked out of medical school! I have witnessed harassment in the form
of daily letters or phone calls. I have seen parents resort to arguing
the
Jewish partner out of the potential marriage, and I have seen the
effort
made with the non-Jewish partner. Whatever form the reaction takes,
however, the rationale is usually phrased in terms of, or accompanied
by comments on, the survival of the Jewish people. ‘How can you do
this to us?’ is usually mixed with ‘Remember the Holocaust.'”
[FREEDLAND, p. 509]

Alan Adelson’s book about the radical left-wing Students for a
Democratic Society (SDS) notes that “one Jewish SDSer’s parents took their son’s
emergence as a communist fairly placidly, but when he told them he was dating a
Catholic girl, his mother gravely informed him: ‘Son, you’re killing us slowly.'”
[ADELSON, p. 135]

A 1985 survey of American Jewry revealed that 43% of Jewish fathers and
50% of Jewish mothers were opposed to Jews dating non-Jews. Comparatively,
only 16% of Christian fathers and 19% of Christian mothers opposed interdating.
59% of Jewish fathers and 62% of Jewish mothers opposed Jewish marriage to
non-Jews, while only 29% of Christian fathers and 33% of Christian mothers opposed
Christian marriages to non-Christians. [FORSTER, p. 69] Another study found
that while 80% of the parents of non-Jewish spouses of Jews had positive
attitudes about Jewish people, only a quarter of the Jewish parents of a child
married to a non-Jew had positive attitudes towards Gentiles. [FORSTER, p. 110]
What group of people seem to be narrow-minded bigots here? Why is this aspect of
the “champions of liberalism” and “fighters against intolerance” never
highlighted?

Jewish isolationism of course has deep and ancient roots, and even in
America Jewish fears of, and hostility to, intermarriage are not new. In
1912, one survey noted that only seven of 100 rabbis surveyed in America had ever
performed a mixed marriage. A 1909 resolution of the Central Council of
American Rabbis declared that “mixed marriages are contrary to the tradition of the
Jewish religion and should be discouraged by the American rabbinate.” As late
as the 1970s, even among Reform (generally considered to be a very liberal
branch of Judaism) rabbis, “virtually all” of them opposed mixed marriages on
principle and a majority refused to officiate such weddings. [MACDONALD, p. 98]
“Most Jewish parents want their children to maintain Jewish contacts,” wrote
Albert Gordon in 1959, “They do not favor the idea of intermarriage, primarily
because it is their desire to perpetuate the Jewish people and the ‘religion
of their father,’ however they may define that religion … Intensification of
efforts to counter this situation, which Jews must regard as critical, must
therefore occupy the most prominent place among the concerns of American Jews.”
[GORDON, A., p. 245]

While for decades in American popular society a parent’s resistance to
his or her child marrying someone of another race or religious faith has been
the bottom line gauge of a bigot,  “the battle against intermarriage,” said
Arthur Hertzberg in 1964, “… is conducted among Jews more bitterly and with
relatively more success than any other group in America. It makes no difference
whether Jews believe or do not believe in any version of the Jewish tradition;
they battle with equal fervor against the threat of intermarriage of their
children. Certainly one would be shocked to discover non-believers of Catholic or
Protestant extraction fighting comparably with their own children.”
[HERTZBERG, p. 291]

In 1999, an American Jewish Congress-sponsored reprint article quoted an
excerpt from a letter of a post-World War II era Jewish woman in Poland who
cut off her relationship with the non-Jewish man she loved. Why? “My beloved,
my darling,” she wrote, “my dearest! What do you know about me? … You will
never be able to understand me, or the sufferings of my [Jewish] nation. And now
I’ll tell you everything. I’ll tell you the most important thing: I am
Jewish. I am not for you. You are not for me.” [KOZMINSKA-FREJLAK, p. 12]

In 1972, Rabbi Louis Bernstein noted the “frightening increase in
intermarriage” and the Rabbinical Council of America set up a National Commission
on Jewish Survival to fight it. [COX, p. 185] In 1977 Elihu Bergman, the
Assistant Director of the Harvard Center for Population Studies, started seeing the
dam leaking and worried that “a disaster is in the making.” [SILBERMAN, p.
275] In 1987 a New York-area Conservative Judaism Rabbi Association passed a
resolution banning rabbis who perform intermarriages. “Any rabbi who officiates
[at an intermarriage] is approving it. It will destroy the character, the
uniqueness of the Jewish people, which we are obligated to perpetuate.” [RITTBERG,
p. 8] Still in June of 1997, Rabbi Eric Yoffie, described as “a, if not the,
leading spokesperson for Reform Judaism”  (the most liberal strand of formal
Jewish faith) and head of the Union of American Hebrew Congregations, said: “I
do not perform interfaith marriages. I personally do not believe that rabbis
should marry Jews and non-Jews.” [SHANKS, p. 47] (Yoffie, by the way, rose to
power in the ranks of the Association of Reform Zionists of America). “No
Judaism, halikhic or otherwise,” said Rabbi Jonathan Sacks in 1993, “sanctions
marriage between Jews and non Jews without threatening Jewish continuity at its
foundations. Such, however, is the rate of intermarriage in highly acculturated
Jewish communities that exclusion of the outmarried can equally be perceived as
a demographic disaster.” [SACKS, J., p. 160-161]

This opinion is an ancient one. Centuries before Christ, “the principle
of the Jewish master race, founded upon the myth of racial purity,” notes Old
Testament scholar John Allegro, “was being jeopardized by intermarriage on an
increasing scale.” [Allegro, p. 52] In the Torah/Old Testament, Nehemiah even
declared that

“I saw the Jews who had married women of Ashdod, Ammon, and
Moab; and half of their children spoke the language of Ashdod, and
they could not speak their own language. And I contended with them
and cursed them and beat some of them and pulled out their hair…
Shall we then listen to you and do all this great evil and act
treacherously against our God by marrying foreign women?”
[NEHEMIAH 13:23-27; in Allegro, p. 52]

In Jewish tradition, notes Dan Rottenberg, even among Jews,

“there were complex rules regarding who could marry whom, for the groups
constituted a distinct social pecking order, as follows, starting at the
top:

(1) Kohanim (priests) — male descendants of Aaron, who was a brother of
Moses
and a descendant of Levi.
(2) Levites — other male descendants of Levi, who served as assistants
to the
Kohanim.
(3) Israelites — all other Jews of unblemished heritage (that is,
descendants of
Jacob who had not intermarried with non-Jews).
(4) Halalim — offspring of some forbidden marriages entered into by
priests.
(5) Gerim — converts to Judaism.
(6) Harurim — freed slaves.
(7) Mamzerim — bastards.
(8) Netinim — descendants of the Gibbeonites, who were circumcised at
the time
of Joshua (1200 BC?) and were not regarded as full Jews because
their
conversion was effected by trickery.
(9) Shetukim — persons unable to identify their father.
(10) Persons unable to identify either their father or their mother.

Not included in this list were gentiles and slaves, who had no legal
status at all
in Jewish law at the time, since Jewish law applied only to Jews.”
[ROTTENBERG,
D., 1977, p. 60]

“Being Jewish,” as we have so often seen, has always been packed with
a range of contradictions and paradoxes; the subject of intermarriage — so
deeply entwined in the strange genetic, ethnic, and nationalist maze of “Jewish
identity” — is no different. While Jewish mythology traditionally makes
implicit claims of a direct genetic lineage to the Israelite patriarch Abraham,
and various rabbis throughout the centuries have legislated against marrying
non-Jews, a quick scan of ancient Jewish history reveals that a number of
preeminent Israelite historical characters had married out of the community.

The original patriarch himself, Abraham, cohabitated with Hagar, an
Egyptian; Joseph married Asenath, an Egyptian; Moses married Zipporah, a
Midianite; King David’s mother was a Moabite as was his great grandmother, Ruth; and,
as far as King Solomon goes (whose mother was a Hittite), “he loved many
strange women, including the daughter of Pharaoh, women of Moabites, Ammonites,
Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites.” [KOESTLER, p. 235] (King Solomon was reputed
to have hundreds, if not thousands of wives).

Even such seminal modern Zionist heroes like Theodore Herzl, Chaim
Weizmann, and Ben Gurion all had children who married non-Jews. [SCHNEIDER, p.
339]  Max Nordeau, one of the foremost Zionist pioneers, was married to a
Christian. Even Israeli right wing prime minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s first marriage
was to a woman whose mother was not Jewish.

Yet Moses himself cautioned against exogamy (DEUTERONOMY 7: 34) and
“the promises of Isiah and the injunctions of Ezra in matters of separation,”
noted J. O. Hertzler in 1942, “are as valid today among the Orthodox as at the
hour of their supposed utterance … A generation or two ago, among many Jews,
a father would say kaddish (a prayer for the dead) over the child who was
intermarried, as if he had died. Intermarriage was an unforgivable sin, more
sinister and dangerous than religious apostates.” [HERTZLER, p. 79]

Such injunctions still hold firm in Jewish Orthodox communities today in
America (6% of the United States Jewish population, 14% of the New York
Jewish population). The rate of intermarriage in the Orthodox community, according
to two Jewish researchers on the subject, is “virtually nil.” [FARBER, p. 17]
(In 1991 a study even showed that 85% of all Jews in New York married other
Jews.) [FARBER, p. 16]

By 1990, however, with so many young Jews (or divorcees taking on
second or third marriages) marrying out of the Jewish community across America,
“religious and communal leaders,” says Edward Shapiro, “could no longer hurl
jeremiads against exogamy or berate the intermarried, particularly when often
their children and closest acquaintances had intermarried.” [SHAPIRO, p. 5]
“The non-Orthodox … walk a tightrope,” says Lena Romanoff, “Although they do
not want to encourage intermarriage, they also do not want to alienate young
Jews who, with or without approval from their rabbis or parents are
increasingly likely to become involved in intermarriage.” [ROMANOFF, p. 6] Hence, since
about the 1960s, Jewish communities (except the Orthodox who ban it) have had
no choice but to slowly shift from an intolerance of intermarriage to damage
control:  it was time to swallow their convictions and make strong efforts to
keep the children of mixed marriages Jewish.

Outreach programs or not, there is a strong tendency to keep the
children of mixed marriages Jewish anyway. Given traditional Jewish identity  (with
its obsessive root and intolerant view of Christians), it should be no
surprise that Jews in mixed marriages are far less willing to give up links to their
heritage than Gentile spouses. In a 1980s New York area demographic study, for
example, the results suggested that three-quarters of Jewish women who marry
Gentiles planned to raise their children as Jews. [SILBERMAN, p. 303] Calvin
Goldscheider notes that “usually the Jewish partner remains attached to the
Jewish community and in many cases the partner not born Jewish becomes attached
to the Jewish community through friends, family, neighbors, organizations,
secular and religious. Most of the friends of the intermarried are Jewish; most
support the state of Israel; most identify themselves as Jews.” [GOLDSCHEIDER,
p. 139]  “In my experience,” says social worker Edwin Freedman, “it is far more
likely that when Jews and non-Jews marry it will generally be the non-Jewish
partner who is influenced away from his or her origins. When the focus is
confined to those marriages in which the Jewish partner is female, then I have to
add that I have almost never seen such a union where the non-Jewish male will
be the less adaptive partner in family matters.” [FREEDLAND, E., 1982, p.
503]  “If half the children [of mixed marriages] are raised as Jews,” notes a
hopeful Charles Silberman, “there will be no net reduction in the number of Jews,
no matter how high the intermarriage is.” [Silberman’s emphasis] [SILBERMAN,
p. 303]

Take the case of actress Debbie Reynolds’ attitude when she married pop
singer Eddie Fisher in 1958:
“[Fisher’s] entire family had a party for us at his mother’s house. I was the
only Gentile. I felt as if I were in another country … They all called
Eddie ‘Sonny-boy.’ They shocked that Sonny-boy was marrying a shiksa, but they
thought I was friendly and cute … I found my visit to Eddie’s family
fascinating. I decided that I would learn about the Jewish culture. I had no intention
of converting, but if none day one of our children wanted to be part of the
Jewish faith, I wanted to understand it. There were a lot of people who felt that
Eddie should marry a nice Jewish girl who would stay home and raise the
children to be nice Jewish children. I wanted to be able to do that for him.”
[REYNOLDS, D., 1988, p. 107]

Faced with a younger Jewish generation that is more inclined to
exogamy, some liberal community leaders, rather than lose Jews en masse, have faced
the “disaster” with controversial, nontraditonal, emergency remedies. While not
proselytizing, some Jewish leaders are exploring conversion to Judaism by
non-Jewish spouses as an option to keep a dedicated Jewish lineage and identity.
(By 1990 there were about 190,000 formal converts to Judaism in America, the
overwhelming majority married to born Jews).  [EPSTEIN, p. 38] If, for
instance, the non-Jewish marriage partner converts to Judaism, the chances of the
union’s children being raised as Jews is much higher. While 75% of mixed married
children remained Jewish when the non-Jewish partner converted to Judaism,
likewise 75% of the children were not raised Jewish in non-converted households.
[EPSTEIN, p. 40]

For many converts, their new Jewish identity has some unexpected
aspects.

“Virtually every Jew by choice to whom I spoke,” says researcher Charles
Silberman, “told me that conversion involves a transformation in identity …
‘All of a sudden you feel labeled and vulnerable,’ a Denver convert told me
… A New Yorker put it more graphically: ‘I feel much more of that ‘when will
those goyim get me?’ syndrome than I expected.” [SILBERMAN, p. 317]  More
demanding than any religious allegiance, one study found that 71% of converts to
Judaism felt that support for Israel was important; 70% even felt it important
to visit the Jewish nation. (Two-thirds of the converts married to Jews earned
$75,000 a year or more). [FORSTER, p. 97]

“As a new Jew,” counsels Laurence Epstein in his book for converts, “the
convert needs to identify with the Jewish community so deeply that the
community’s concerns are absorbed by the convert. The Jewish community cares about
the survival and security of Israel. So must the convert. The Jewish community
cares about preserving the memory of the Holocaust so as to firm its resolve
to fight anti-Semitism. So must the convert.” [EPSTEIN, p. 198]

In 1973 the Reform and Conservative rabbinates decided to deal with the
unpleasant situation of increasing intermarriage by creating a formal course
for converts to Judaism (i.e., mostly non-Jews who sought to marry Jews) “in
order to preserve a Jewish identity in the home to retain the next generation (as
Jews).” [FORSTER, p. 55] It was agreed not to publicize the course, however,
for fear of encouraging intermarriage (as well as the program’s inevitably
controversial nature in Orthodox circles); “students” were selected by rabbis.
The course addressed a wide range of “Jewishness” — “highlights of Jewish
history includ[ed] the Holocaust and the establishment of the state of Israel.”
[FORSTER, p. 56]

The overwhelming majority of conversions in America are performed under
the auspices of Reform or Conservative rabbinates. In Israel, which is deeply,
and increasingly, influenced by Orthodox dictate, these conversions are not
recognized as being legitimate. Jewish Orthodoxy formally dominates the Israeli
religious (and, to some degree, secular) system. “It has long been known,”
wrote Uri Huppert in 1988, “that Reform and Conservative rabbis are not
authorized to officiate at ceremonies for their own congregants. They can neither
marry, nor divorce, nor bury them.” [HUPPERT, U., 1988, p. 51]

Many converts to Judaism in America have a rude and unexpected awakening
when they visit Israel and find that there they are not Jews after all. “More
than one convert,” says Laurence Epstein, “has told me they wished they had
known of these disputes [between Reform and Conservative Judaism and Orthodoxy]
before they converted.” [EPSTEIN, p. 44]  Rabbi Jonathan Sacks notes that
“some hundreds of thousands of individuals who have received Reform conversions
or patrilineal Jewish identity [i.e., only the father is Jewish], or are the
children of women who have [converted to Judaism], consider themselves Jewish
and halakhically are not.” [SACKS, J., p. 186]

In 1998 this experience befell Andrea Kinkel, the daughter of Germany’s
foreign minister, who married an Israeli citizen and converted to Orthodox
Judaism in the United States. The Israeli Foreign Ministry rejected her
conversion when she and her husband moved to Israel. [DEUTSCH-PRESS] Similar is the
case of Abraham Elhiany, born and raised in Louisiana. His father was Jewish,
his mother was not. Upon moving to Israel, his various papers testifying to his
“Jewishness” were decided to be forgeries by the Israeli rabbinate (although
he was told by one clerk that the matter could be settled for $1,000). [ARNOLD,
p. A1] Even if a Gentile jumps through all the hoops of rigorous year-long
study (and, for males, a circumcision rite) to be an Orthodox Jew in Israel, the
conversion is only valid in that country.

By traditional Jewish law, not only are non-Orthodox conversions to
Judaism unacceptable. Any Jew who divorced and remarries without getting a
specially Orthodox “bill of divorce” will thereby have children who are automatically
considered by the Orthodox to be mamzerim, illegitimate, no matter who the
Jewish parent remarries. Mamzerim are children born of incestuous or adulterous
unions. “They carry a stigma with tragic consequences,” notes Rabbi Jonathan
Sacks. “[By Orthodox decree] they may not marry a legitimate Jew. The Reform
abandonment of halikhic divorce thus creates a halakhic fact of illegitimacy …
The potential for human grief is enormous.” [SACKS, J., p. 183-184]

For those who do successfully become converts under strict Orthodox
observance in Israel, in 1985 the Israeli Interior Ministry afforded them still
another slap in the face, highlighting their status as “second-class Jews.”
All converts to Judaism were henceforth to have their Israeli identity cards
stamped with “convert” next to the word Jew. [JEWISH WEEK, 7-4-86, p. 3]

This issue of “conversion to Judaism” and its attendant paradoxes and
incongruities demands scrutiny. The Encyclopedia Judaica uses this alleged
Jewish openness to conversion as evidence against the worst racist implications of
the “Chosen People” mythology:

“[The Chosen People] concept has been the object of criticism,
misinterpretation, and attack from within and without. The anti-Semite
has seized upon it as an unveiled claim to Jewish superiority, and
caricatures it by maintaining that it is the basis of a program of world
domination … Judaism has always been open to the proselyte who — by
accepting it — becomes part of the Chosen People. This fact is often
cited to refute charges of ‘racial’ exclusiveness.”
[ENCYCLOPEDIA JUDAICA, p. 502]

What about the opportunity for anyone to convert to Judaism, which
“refutes” the charges of an intolerant “racial exclusiveness” as bedrock to the
faith?

The main reason some liberalizing strands of Judaism have begrudgingly
warmed to the idea of conversion is not because of any intrinsic openness in
the faith, but because younger, secularized, and assimilating Jews are
increasingly marrying non-Jews. If Jewish parents have to swallow poison, they would
— as the lesser of evils — at least get the poison to convert to Judaism.

Because most people who convert to Judaism have a romantic involvement
with a Jewish partner (over 90%) [FORSTER, p. xi], conversion to Judaism and
intermarriage is highly related. Many conversions of course are merely
expeditious. According to a 1979 study, 47% of the converts become Jews because of
pressure from the spouses-in-law, or for the sake of their children. In a 1987
study 40.6 per cent of Jews married to non-Jews were unhappy that their spouses
were not Jewish; only 14.4% of the corresponding Gentile partners were unhappy
their spouses were not Christian.  Gentile spouses were found to be likely to
convert to Judaism if requested to do so by Jewish in-laws. [FORSTER, p. 76]
Likewise, Jewish spouses “preferred that their partners take on Judaism rather
than become involved in Christianity themselves, because they wanted to
retain their Jewish connection and identity, and they felt uncomfortable affirming
Christian beliefs. They tended to actively encourage their partner’s
conversion.” [FORSTER, p. 118]

One such study found that 98% of Jewish parents and their children
married to non-Jews favored conversion (of the Gentile spouses); 58% of Jews
married to Gentiles “actively encouraged conversion of their mate.” [FORSTER, p.
135]

“When Yehuda insisted I have an Orthodox conversion,” says Margaret
Morrison, a Gentile married to an Israeli Jew, “so that we and our children would
be fully accepted in Israel, I was shocked.”

“Eric [Goldberg] and I dated for two years,” says another Gentile woman
who married him, “and the only thing Jewish I ever knew about him was his name
… There was not one Jewish book or article in his apartment, and we never
discussed Jewish issues. Was I shocked during our first real discussion about
marriage when he practically demanded that I convert to Judaism and insisted we
be married in a synagogue by his rabbi.” [ROMANOFF, p. 63]

Jacob Kramer simply told his non-Jewish girlfriend: “I’m not a
particularly knowledgeable or a religious Jew, but deep down I feel Jewish, and I want
you to consider sharing that feeling with me. Let’s explore together.”
[ROMANOFF, p. 64] Ronald Maislin’s “major, and not uncommon, dilemma, was whether he
should first ask Debbie to marry him, then to convert, or vice versa. “I
didn’t want her to think I was blackmailing her into an answer,” he says, “But the
fact was I probably would not have married her without conversion.” [ROMANOFF,
p. 66] Madeline Plotnick told her would-be husband: “Al, I want our children
to be Jewish, not just because I’m Jewish but because they would share a
common religion with us. I want you to become a Jew so we can share everything
together.” Michael Hart wrote a letter to his girlfriend: “I asked her to consider
my proposal seriously but ended by saying that if she could not convert or at
least consider it as a future option then I did not want her to respond to my
letter. [ROMANOFF, p. 67]

“After only a few months of being together,” says Yossi Klein Halevi,

“I couldn’t imagine life without [non-Jewish] Lynn. And though I tried
to forget
the future, I dreaded a choice between Lynn and Jewish loyalty. I wanted
her
to covert to Judaism, to share with me the quest of how to be a Jew in
this time. But I knew      that could work only she fell in love with the Jewish
people.” [HALEVI, MEMOIRS, p. 210]

Insisting that Lynn move with him to Israel, she eventually complained
that “It’s all on me. I’m the one who has to make the big changes. Fall in
love with Judaism, fall in love with Israel. I feel like an appendage to you.
It’s a setup.” “You’re right,” replied Halevi, “but what’s the alternative?”
[HALEVI, MEMOIRS, p. 228]

Paul Cowan explains common obsessions with Jewish identity in an
intermarriage:

“Usually even the most disaffected Jews want to raise their children
as Jews.
Many are aware that, according to sociologists and demographers,
increasing
numbers of Jews who marry in the 1980s are choosing gentiles as their
spouses. Even though they themselves are intermarrying, they often are
afraid that their children will be assimilated into Christian culture.
They
fear that if they don’t insist on maintaining Judaism in their homes
they
will betray more than four thousand years of proud history and deprive
their children of a valued legacy.
It is often impossible for their gentile partners to understand the
intensity
of these feelings. They wonder why so many Jews who marry Christians
insist on celebrating Jewish holidays and ignoring Christmas; on sending
children to Hebrew school and keeping them out of churches. Why are they
insensitive to some of the deepest feelings of the gentiles that they
love?
Why, the Christians wonder, are Jews so stubborn?
Why, some Jews respond, are the gentiles unable to understand the
depth of their loyalty to their heritage and their people?” [COWAN, P.
1987, p. x]

“Many Jews in modern America believe it is enough to feel Jewish,” says
Lena Romanoff, “to be a gastronomic or cultural Jew, perhaps with the notion
that, as inexplicable as it is, they have little “J” cells in their blood….
When it comes time to encouraging conversion [in their Gentile partners] these
Jews understandably find it difficult to explain this seemingly inexplicable
commitment to their partners.” [ROMANOFF, p. 64]

And how are converts to Judaism accepted in the Jewish community?

“The Jewish community as a whole,” says Brenda Forster and Joseph
Tabachnik, “still evidences great suspicion towards converts … Since Jews know of
their own Marranos who faked being Christians for centuries, they have
historical grounds for being suspicious.” [FORSTER, p. 74]  “The Jewish community’s
is a shamefully ambivalent attitude,” complained Rabbi Laurence Kushner in
1997, “even down right hostile toward people who want to join us. It is based on a
narrow, ethnic definition of what it means to be a Jew, and has no basis in
present social reality.” [FIRESTONE, TIKKUN, p. 37]

Even those few Gentiles who convert to Judaism with no attendant
romantic interest in a Jew find their sincerity demeaned in the Jewish community.
“It is assumed by those of a negative bent,” says Brenda Forster, “even when the
facts are known to be otherwise, that … converts … have convert[ed] for
utilitarian reasons.” [FORSTER, p. 76]  Jewish identity, Laurence Epstein warns
would-be converts, “… is something of an ethnocentric nature, such as the
view that converts are not really Jewish, that only someone born Jewish could
truly understand how a Jew feels.” [EPSTEIN, p. 52]

“Rejection,” says convert Lena Romanoff, “from all corners of Jewish
society, is nothing new for a convert … It points to one of the most serious
problems facing all converts: lack of acceptance by other Jews … Despite my
obvious commitment, the consensus in my [Jewish in-law] family was that it would
be better if my “past” was not made public knowledge … I began to think I
was walking around with a disease of some sort.” [ROMANOFF, p. 128-129]

“Unlike Christians,” says Brenda Forster, “who open their arms and
doors in great warmth, concern, and support for converts, Jews are generally
suspicious … Jews by choice [converts] are surprised and hurt by evidence of
nonacceptance from Jews that continues for years … Recent figures (1985) put the
Jewish-Gentile divorce rate at 55%, with the Jewish-Jewish rate at 10% …
Negative reactions [to Gentile spouses] by Jewish in-laws, by Jewish leaders,
and by the Jewish community may eventually take their toll.” [FORSTER, p.
133-134]

“Sadly enough,” says Lena Romanoff, “some born Jews disregard the
level of commitment and sincerity of the convert. In their eyes a convert is a
convert and will always be a convert … I especially found it ironic when I
hear Jewish parents say that they would rather their child marry a secular,
assimilated Jew than a convert. In these cases, the convert is greeted with
hostility or suspicion, whereas those same parents would never pass such judgment on
the uncommitted Jew.” [ROMANOFF, p. ]   As Nahum Goldmann notes, “the Talmud
says that a ger, a convert, is as hard to bear as a sore.” [GOLDMANN, N., 1978,
p. 65]

“Jews are born, not made,” insisted Marty Ross, the father-in-law of a
convert, “The Jewish people fought long and hard to survive the ravages of
history. Why should an outsider, after a few months of study, be entitled to claim
our inheritance?” [ROMANOFF, p. 130] “To be a Jew,” says Jewish scholar
Nicholas de Lange, “is thus to acknowledge an attachment to this historic
experience. Conversion to Judaism is often conceived in religious terms, but religion
is only one aspect of Jewish identity. One cannot become a Jew through
subscribing to a set of religious beliefs, any more than one ceases to be a Jew by
losing one’s religion. (We do not speak of a ‘lapsed Jew.’) Hence converts are
normally spoken of not as converts but as proselytes, a Greek term which
originally meant ‘immigrants.’ To become a Jew is essentially to join a people.” [DE
LANGE, N., 1987, p. 20]

“Four thousand years of Jewish history,” observes Lena Romanoff, “have
cast a unique perspective of the world on many Jews — a perspective that above
all emphasizes the uniqueness of a people who have triumphed over repeated
periods of persecution, alienation, aloneness. For some the sense of uniqueness
is threatened by one who tries to ‘join the club.’ This belonging is seen as a
birthright, not something that can be learned or transferred.” [ROMANOFF, p.
131]

Elected as “sisterhood president” at her local synagogue, when it was
revealed that Romanoff was only a convert, and not a born Jew, she was informed
that she “was no longer sisterhood president because one of the members does
not think that a convert is a real Jew.” [ROMANOFF, p. 129, 1990] Anita Gray
also converted to Judaism, married a Jew, and eventually became a “national vice
chair of the United Jewish Appeal, a board member of the Council of Jewish
Federations, a leader in the Cleveland Jewish community, and an active
participant in the North American Jewish Forum.” She recounts her horrible experience
at a conference about Jewish identity in Israel when she admitted that she
wasn’t born Jewish:

“They had not met people like me — converts. It was as if I had two
heads. An Israeli Lubavitcher [Hasidic] rebbe [rabbi] jumps up yelling,
‘A Jew knows a Jew through the eye.’ Then an aide to [prime minister
Menachem] Begin stands up, points a finger at me, and declares, ‘You’re
a tainted woman. Your children will not be able to play with my
children.’
I was devastated.” [STARR, J., 1990, p. 208]

In 1991, a newly appointed executive director of a Jewish education
program drew strong criticism, particularly from the Orthodox and Conservative
communities because she was married to a non-Jew. Jewish defenders of Judith
Greenberg called the attacks “shocking” and her critics “bigots.” About twenty
letters of protest had come to the Jewish Education Service of North America, not
including others directed to Greenberg personally, “from people trying to
force her out.” Rabbi Marc Angel, President of the Rabbinical Council of America,
objected to Greenberg, calling her a “bad role model … [for] Jewish values.”
[AIN, 4-19-91, p. 4]  And in 1995, Jonathan Tobin, executive editor of the
Connecticut Jewish Ledger made national news for consistently refusing to
publish interfaith wedding and engagement notices in his newspaper.  [LIEBERMAN, p.
14-15]

When Nan Fink (who “as a girl felt inexplicably connected to the victims
of the Holocaust”) tried to convert to Judaism, “vicious letters and middle
of the night telephone calls threatened the Conservative rabbi with whom Fink
initially studied for conversion. At her local Orthodox shul no one would even
speak to her. When referred to an Orthodox rabbi in Jerusalem, he informed her
that conversion would cost ‘only $8,000, a real bargain.'” [PFEFFERMAN, Do
We, p. 8]  Fink, the former wife of Tikkun editor Michael Lerner (left-wing
harbinger of “Jewish values”) notes that:

“I was … having a difficult time in the Orthodox shul, where I have
been
going to services with Michael and his teenage son for the last few
months. I had hoped to find friends in this community, hardly anyone
would speak to me.  It was not my imagination. One day an anonymous
letter arrived, scrawled on light blue note paper, telling me that I
didn’t
belong at the shul. Shocked, I quickly tore the letter to shreds. This
was
only a preview of what would come. A few weeks later one of the
women congregants beckoned me to the side of the room after the
service. I had seen her before, but we hadn’t spoken.  ‘Nobody wants
you here,’ she said in a stern voice. ‘People are too polite to tell
you
directly, but that’s how they feel. You’re not welcome. Do you
understand?’ I left the shul weeping.” [PFEFFERMAN, Do We, p. 10]

In Fink’s conversion case, noted the Jewish Journal of Greater Los
Angeles, “sometimes Fink even ‘caught herself buying into the implicit racism,’
musing that a particularly non-Jewish friend was ‘goyishly” bland or
restrained.” [PFEFFERMAN, Do We, p. 8]

Louisa Gibson, also married to a Jew, notes her own hellious road
towards conversion to Orthodox Judaism:

“This was a Blakeian period for me. A transition from innocense to
experience. I
was coming from a strong Catholic family, convent educated, sheltered.
My
parents did not teach us to judge people on the basis of their race or
religion.
I knew that bigotry and racism existed but had never felt it. It shocked
me, and,
like a person in shock, it took a while to understand that I was victim
of these
attitudes. I was an outsider … Everyone knows the convert has to be
rejected.
Little else about conversion is generally spoken about … Why do so
many Jews
believe their personal response to a convert must also be one of
rejection?”
[GIBSON, L., 2000, p. 24]

A convert to Judaism in 1958 told Jewish sociologist Herbert Gans “of be
coming disturbed over a discussion at an informal party, the subject being
how to inculcate Judaism into their children ‘keep them away from the goyim —
the non-Jews.’ This resident was very active in the Jewish community and feared
the consequences of revealing his origin. Nevertheless, he felt the time had
come to announce that he had been born and raised a Christian. The declaration
broke up the party, and shocked some people. He said afterwards: ‘From now
on, they’ll be on their guard about me in their presence. They’ve lost their
liberty of expression, they don’t express themselves without restriction now. At
party if anybody says something, everybody looks to see if I’ve been offended
and people are taken into a corner and explained about me.'” [GANS, p. 229]

That same year scholars George Eaton Simpson and J. Milton Yinger noted
that

“Intermarriage is opposed by some Jews even when the non-Jew
joins the Jewish group because ‘an alien element is introduced.’
According to [S.E.] Goldstein, the feeling that this element is ‘a
source of weakness and danger’ has become stronger in recent
years owing to the spread of a nationalist spirit among Jewish
people.” [SIMPSON/YINGER, p. 569]

“If the notion of [a giant extended Jewish] family is taken seriously,”
note Charles Liebman and Steve Cohen, “it affirms a biological affinity. No
amount of religious mystification can make biological Jews of converts.”
[LIEBMAN/COHEN, p. 24]  Even if a non-Jew converts to Judaism, explained Nathan, a
Jewish senior citizen, to researcher Barbara Myerhoff,  “that won’t make him a
Jew. You could say a broche [blessing] over a chicken, but that won’t make him
a fish.” [MYERHOFF, p. 79]

“The most insidious and persuasive barrier to a convert’s full
integration into the Jewish community,” noted Gary Tobin in 1999,

“derives from the passionate and often heated who-is-a-Jew debate.
Underlying many of the arguments swirling around in this discussion
is the (secret) conviction that true membership in the Jewish
community can only be achieved by birth. All other comers can
never be like us, not really, not in their hearts. But we cannot say
this out loud.” [original author’s parenthesis: TOBIN, G., 1999, p. 99]

“There is a debilitating hesitancy,” wrote Raphael Baaden, a Jew by
birth, in 1996,

“around the question of conversion [to Judaism]. It cannot be
positively encouraged [by Jews] … because, well, it can’t. Instead,
it seems we should concentrate on exhorting Jews to marry Jews —
that is (although it’s usually not stated in these terms) born Jews …
A halakhic ruling about the inclusion of certain Jews — namely those
with Jewish mothers and non-Jewish fathers [i.e., the classical
religious
ruling of who is a Jew] seems to have been fashioned within a discourse
of racial purity into a threatening statement of exclusion. This
discourse
of racial purity clouds our thoughts continuously, in particular when
the
question of conversion arises.” [BAADEN, p. 11]

++++++++++

The ultimate in evolutionary Jewish group strategy

http://www.forward.com/articles/is-i…ge-the-answer/

Is Intermarriage the Answer?
Rebecca Spence | Fri. August 25, 2006

Excerpts:

At one point in the 1970s, genetic counselors adopted a radical stance on the
issue of intermarriage: They routinely advised Jews who carried the genetic
mutation that leads to a rare neurological genetic disease found in the
Ashkenazic population to marry non-Jews. Their logic was that if a carrier bore
offspring with a non-Jew, the likelihood of the child inheriting the genetic
mutation would be greatly reduced.

According to Harry Ostrer , director of the human genetics program at the New
York University School of Medicine, there has been a noticeable decrease in
the number of Jews carrying the mutations for Jewish genetic diseases, in part
due to intermarriage. “For people who come who report Jewish ancestry, we’re
seeing that the frequency of specific mutations appears to be dropping over
time, because people have mixed ancestry,” said Ostrer. “They’re three-quarters
Jewish,” he added, “not fully.”

While this may be the case, having children with a non-Jew is not a surefire
way to avoid passing on a carrier gene, experts say. Most agree that the
likelihood is significantly reduced when one parent is of a different ethnic
origin, but some say that having a gentile parent can give a false sense of security
when it comes to assessing the risk of passing on Jewish genetic
diseases…some experts contend…”There’s no real advantage to marrying non-Jews at this
point.”

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